So many of you are running around seeking relationships, seeking partnerships, looking for the other person that you are going to "fall in love" with one day. But you have forgotten to love the most important person of all. You have forgotten to love your Self.  This is not meant in an egotistical, lower self way.

That is the relationship that all must work upon, the relationship with the Self, the Higher Self.

Some Guidelines

1. As you enter into any relationship, enter that relationship without expectation.

You say, "Well, a relationship is some type of a commitment. A parent to a child. An employee to an employer. A friend to a friend. There is some type of commitment."
I would like to say to you let us throw out the word 'commitment' for a moment because commitment sets up expectations which are there by your perception of what commitment means. If the relationship does not meet that expectation, then you feel that a sacred commitment also has not been met. You feel violated, as it were. Betrayed. Perhaps you 'trusted' and the trust was not honored.

If you enter into a relationship for the pure interaction of the moment, you can do that without expectation. You say, "That would be very difficult in our society to live that kind of a life. How could a parent have a child and not have a commitment to that child?" First of all there is a natural bond between a soul that produces another physical being and the soul within that physical being. Each soul knows how to honor the relationship. If there is not expectations, the soul will find its way to the perfect interactions that both souls agreed upon. The child before it chose the parents. The parents before it chose to allow the child to come. It is not a need to set an expectation. It is very possible that the soul came through that particular parent not to live with that parent. Perhaps there is a journey here we do not understand. So if you can allow the two souls to find their way they will do so.

Love is a very natural component of who you are. It is only when the stress of expectation is upon you that you move into an energy that steps outside of the natural bond of love. Now, that stress may not come from within the relationship. The stress may come from outside of the relationship. But it is only when the stress appears that the natural bond of love that would guide with perfect soul interaction, becomes distorted.

So as you enter into a relationship, whatever that relationship is, enter it for the pure joy of interaction of the 'now' moment. So, what is likely to happen when you can do that? When you can do that chances are you will have a much richer, fulfilling, interactive relationship than one that places expectations upon each other. Because you are free to love. You are free to truly interact from a soul level and not from the mental level of expectation.

Souls know how to find their way around this planet. Many of you have been around here many, many times. This planet and relationships are not new to you. So the souls know exactly how to interweave into the action of relationship.

2. Realize that most of the time no two souls come together without design and purpose.

Enter a relationship without expectation. Enter the relationship for the joy of giving of your strength, your self, your understanding, your wisdom, and your love to the other. You are in that relationship to share who you are with another person. This also applies to your relationship with animals. You are there that you might share of yourself with that person. That person enters your life that they might share of themselves with you.

No two souls come together without design and purpose. You do not haphazardly run into each other on this planet. It is a very defined path that interacts and brings souls together. You might then realize that:-

A. You may be repeating a cycle from many lifetimes with another soul.

B. You may have had a real good time the last lifetime you were together and you decided to repeat it this lifetime.

C. You may just be coming together for a very short period of time to complete something that needs to be completed, and it would never be intended that your entire life would be spent together. You have something to complete and whatever that may be, it may only be a short time for completion.

You should never obligate a soul to complete a relationship that is finished. When a relationship is finished, it has served its purpose. The important thing is how the relationship ends. It is extremely important for your own soul's evolution that any relationship, be this work, be this intimacy, or family, that it is finished in a harmonious condition.

A Shift in Consciousness
We now have to make a shift of consciousness away from the perception of self as an individual self-contained unit responsible only to itself. We need to develop a perception of self as a component of a wider grouping: harmonizing within the family and community, collaborating rather than competing in the productive service of our ‘work’, respecting all of human life and ultimately all of Creation. We must learn to transmute our self-interest into care and concern for others, working together cooperatively with our fellow humans as well as the animal, vegetable and mineral kingdoms, not seeking to take advantage of another for one's own benefit.

Reflections
The emotional, mental and spiritual changes that take place during the ascension process are constantly being reflected in our relationships. It is in our personal interaction with others that we are able to better understand what needs to be changed in ourselves, and the messages are always clear once we begin to look for them.

Fear in relationships
There are also times when you are frightened.  You fear what he will say or do next, or what you will say or do. You want to remain together and you are frightened that you will separate. You fear that you will not be able to give her what she needs, or that she will not be able to do that for you.

It may be that you are able to love others more consistently because they are not close enough to you to stimulate your fears the way that your partner does.  This is good. Spiritual partnership is partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. Spiritual growth requires finding and healing your fears.  If your partnership didn't bring up your fears it couldn't help you to grow spiritually.

You are together to learn how to love.  Your fears show you what you need to work on. They are what needs to be changed.  You know that your spiritual partnership is working when it brings up your fears.  It would not be working if it didn't.

Eventually you will learn to love each other, and, in the process, everyone and everything.  Before that happens, you will encounter all of your fears.  That is the first step in healing them.

Spiritual Partnership
It takes courage to be in a relationship with another human.  You know that you are in a relationship if the person that you are with is irreplaceable to you.  When another person's struggles, history, and aspirations are important to you, that is also a sign that you are in a relationship.  When you see yourself and others as souls, you automatically begin to all others as equals.  When you know that there is a reason for your being together, and that reason has to do with your spiritual growth, that is a spiritual partnership. What you do not like about your partner can show you what you are refusing to see in yourself.

Spiritual partners choose to look at themselves carefully. They seek to learn what they can from their interactions. They know that they are more than bodies and minds, and they know that they are together in order to grow spiritually. Every obstacle to the intimacy that they seek will arise in their relationship. This happens with everyone all the time. The difference is that spiritual partners are looking for those obstacles in themselves. That is what spiritual growth means - finding and healing the parts of yourself that stand between you and your fullness.